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A reddish orange photo of a black femme presenting person with white text.

Disabled Parts

An Exploration of Disabled Embodiment and Sexuality

A Black, femme presenting person with long black nails and a shiny, banded ring on their right-hand ring finger. Their fingers graze a thin, black strap that falls into lace just over and around the chest, showing slight cleavage. They’re facing the right, and the frame is cut off just above the bridge of the nose. There is a small, dangling earring that is cascading from their left ear. The whole picture is overlaid in an orangish-red hue; making the photo dreamy and steamy. There is a white bar on the top and bottom, with large matching white text centered in frame. The text reads, “Disabled Parts,” and below it, in smaller text, “An Exploration of Disabled Embodiment and Sexuality.”

About

Disabled Parts is a growing archive of poetry, stories, photos and art about sexuality and intimacy, featuring disabled voices. We move past the question of “what is disabled sex?”  and seek to build understanding and deepen connection with our bodies, ourselves, and each other.

This site is a place for sex positive, survivor centered information, and for uplifting the experiences of disabled people in regards to our unique and varied sexualities.  Sexuality and disability both exist on a spectrum, and both are in constant flux and change. Disabled people are beautiful, complex, and powerful.  

We believe that all disabled people have a right to pleasure on their own terms! 

We define pleasure and sex broadly; we move beyond mainstream and heteronormative ideas about sex, which tend to center genitals and orgasm and which focus on only a few specific sex acts which may not be accessible or even desirable for everyone.  Sex and pleasure look different for everyone, and everyone deserves pleasure that works for them.

Disabled sex is

creative

vulnerable

and expansive.

Disabled sex centers

access

communication

consent

and flexibility. 

Disabled sex values and honors the uniqueness of all of our

bodies and minds.

A digital drawing of four skeletons in front of three colored blobs
Art by Rachel Hoffman

A digital image where there are four skeletons descending on a diagonal. behind those four skeletons is three organic ovular, oblong egg shapes. the oval to the right where the bottom two skeletons are is white and expands up to the right and down towards the center right. The second ovular shape is black and bigger than the first. It expands upward to the left with the top of the shape larger than the bottom. The bottom of the shape reaches towards the center. There is a third oblong shape that is in the background of both the two shapes, hiding most of the body of the shape. It spans in the center and is more horizontal, it’s is a grayish blue. All skeletons are the same posture: the skeleton has it’s back knee bent and it’s front leg lengthened. The legs lay towards the left. The skeletons all cradle their necks, clutching at their necks. Their spines are curved over and the skull looks down between their knees. The first skeletons silhouette at the top diagonal is textured with colors of orange and reds at the skull and ribs and spine. The legs have greens reds and the feet have more orange. Descending down the second silhouette has a texture and color similar to a blue white ice. The pelvic floor and ribs is a darker blue almost greenish and it ombres lighter towards the skull and legs. The third skeleton silhouette straddles the black and white oblong ovular shapes. It has a pink and red color tone similar to wine. The fourth skeleton is all black and is backdropped by the white oblong shape.

We will not provide resources for parents or care providers who wish to discourage disabled young people from exploring their bodies and their sexual desires.  We believe that providing accessible sexuality education creates greater safety, autonomy, and possibility for all people, disabled or not.

All of the creators and contributors to this site are disabled people.  We seek to center the experiences of queer and trans disabled people and especially those who are BIPOC. Disability Justice has taught us that we must take the lead from those most impacted by racism, ableism, and colonization.

We owe gratitude to the queer, disabled leaders and writers who have been doing the work of Disability Justice and disabled sexual wholeness and liberation for years.  Follow and support the work of Patty Berne, Leah Lakshmi Piepzna Samarasinha, Aurora Levins Morales, Imani Barbarin, Neve Be.  Our resources page has more links to other revolutionary disabled writers and advocates. 

We also know that disability is not a monolith!  We acknowledge that this site can not speak fully to the wide range of disabilities, and that it must be a growing archive of voices.    

We welcome non-disabled partners, friends, and allies to interact with everything here- listening to disabled perspectives is a great way to become a better ally. We also invite allies to consider their own needs in regards to sex, intimacy, and relationships.  This can make you a better ally and a better partner.  Knowing and being able to safely share our needs and desires will allow us all to move with the pace and comfort of our bodies and minds at the center. 

Thank you for being here!

A photo of a person using a balm from the chest down.
Photo by Queer Kink (IG @queer.kink)

A photo of a fair skinned person from the chest down with their legs spread and going off frame. They are wearing a black tank top, and brown leopard print underwear. They have thick thighs, and a thick black lined and slightly colored tattoo on their right upper thigh. They have another black tattoo on their lower right arm that fades into the crease of their elbow. Their body is slightly out of focus with a soft glow or light highlighting their left side arm, and thigh. In front of their body, they hold a silver tin with their ring and middle fingers grazing the top of whatever is inside. Their hands look soft and supple, with clean shiny fingernails.

This site was funded by the Craig H Neilsen Foundation and the Center for Cultural Innovation’s SCI Artist-Innovator Fund grant. Disabled Parts was edited by carrie sarah kaufman.