Disabled Parts is a growing archive of poetry, stories, photos and art about sexuality and intimacy, featuring disabled voices. Rather than focus on the unanswerable question of “what is disabled sex,” Disabled Parts seeks to illuminate deeper connection with our bodyminds, our sexualities, and each other.

  • A femme presenting person with long dark brown hair is photographed sitting on a black upholstered chair, displaying their profile, and is wearing a light sand colored fitted long sleeve and large hoop earrings. As they close their eyes, they sensually drape a black leather flogger alongside their left shoulder. They come to focus, as the background behind them blurs.

Content notes:  This site is a place for shame-free exploration of play, kink, pleasure and sex, and for uplifting the experiences of disabled people with regard to our unique and varied sexualities.  The work on these pages discusses sex, kinky play + BDSM, sexual assault + sexual trauma, ableism.  Please take care of yourself, however needed, while engaging with everything here.

Society's scripts about sex are inherently ableist and based on binary + heteronormative assumptions about the world. They focus on genitals and orgasm and teach us about specific sexual acts and dynamics which are not accessible or even desirable for everyone.  

We define pleasure and sex broadly.  We recognize that our sexualities, just like our disabilities, will change constantly and take different forms throughout our lives.

  • A close up of black leather flogger handle being placed in between the teeth of a submissive, creating a shadow on their cheek as the sunset-like lighting grazes their face. Their lips are painted with an orangish pink nude lipstick, they wear a black bedazzled hoop earring, and their curly hair is brown with the ends transforming into a rosewood pink color.

Disabled Sex

  • Disabled Sex is creative, vulnerable, and expansive.

  • Disabled Sex centers access needs, communication, consent, and flexibility.

  • Disabled sex values and honors the uniqueness of all of our bodies and minds.

Art by Sarah Faux

Disabled people are complex and powerful.
All disabled people have a right to pleasure on their own terms! 

Disabled Parts is a growing archive of people's stories and experiences, following the lead and practices of disabled storytellers, especially recent ancestors Alice Wong, Patty Berne, & Stacy Park Milburn

We welcome non-disabled partners and friends to interact with everything here.  Beyond appreciating the narratives here, all are invited to also consider their own needs in regards to sex, intimacy, and relationships.  Knowing and being able to safely share our needs and desires will allow us all to move with the pace and comfort of our bodies and minds at the center.

We believe that providing accessible sexuality education creates greater safety, autonomy, and possibility for all people, disabled or not. You will not find resources here for parents or care providers who wish to discourage disabled young people from exploring their bodies and their sexual desires.  

We owe gratitude to queer and trans disabled BIPOC who have been leading, writing, and doing the work of Disability Justice and disabled sexual wholeness and liberation for years.  Follow and support the work of Sins Invalid, Disability Visibility Project, Aurora Levins Morales, Imani Barbarin, Syrus Marcus Ware, Leah Lakshmi Piepzna Samarasinha, Neve Be.  Find and share about the world building work of recent disabled ancestors Alice Wong, Patty Berne, & Stacy Park Milburn. These individuals and groups are uplifted on our resources page, along with other revolutionary disabled writers and advocates.

Thank you for being here!